Safe Harbor is grateful to the Fluor Corporation for choosing Safe Harbor as a recipent of one of Fluor's 2012 Centenniel Grants. Through this grant, Fluor is currently working with Safe Harbor to create a computer lab for Safe Harbor's clients…
By Michelle Hill, Safe Harbor Community Counselor
Forgiveness is a powerful means towards healing for victims of domestic violence, yet it is an extremely difficult process. After participating in months of Safe Harbor counseling to heal from the abuse she had suffered for five years from her husband, “Elizabeth” shared during a session that she felt like she needed to forgive her abuser. She told me that she felt that forgiveness was essential in order to recover from her past. Elizabeth did not want to deny or excuse the abuse or to release her abuser from his responsibility. She wished simply to release herself from the pain of those traumatic experiences that continued to get in the way of her own happiness and peace.
Elizabeth and I talked about forgiveness and what it would mean for her. We discussed ways in which she might be able to reach a sense of forgiveness for her abuser. Elizabeth finds a lot of strength through writing, so I suggested that she write a letter to her abuser that she would never send to him. Through this letter, she could safely express herself to him, fully and honestly. She could write specifically about how he had hurt her, how he had changed her. Most importantly, though, she could express how she had recovered and how she, through forgiveness, would release the emotional grip he had had on her quality of life even after she had ended her relationship with him.
Two weeks later, Elizabeth brought the letter to our session. She read it out loud. She paused several times to take a breath, to cry, to let the memories release. When she was done she released the letter. The experiences she had written about and read about out loud no longer held her captive emotionally, physically, or spiritually. She was freed from the abuse in her past, empowering her to move forward with a sense of strength, peace, and joy in her future.
Below is a portion of Elizabeth’s letter that we are sharing with her permission. We hope this letter will provide hope to other victims and survivors as they are seeking safety, support and healing along their journey.
As we continue to raise awareness about Safe Harbor's mission, we are beginning to tell our stories through video pieces. Please enjoy this first video that explains the heart of Safe Harbor as a breath of fresh air and a safe place for victims…
“Hope” is a Safe Harbor client. She’s the mom of a 15-year-old girl with the dream of graduating from college and a 7-year-old boy with a shy but friendly smile. “Hope” is a survivor of domestic violence. She and her…
In October of 2011, Safe Harbor received a grant from the Office of Violence Against Women to begin a second transitional housing program for victims of domestic violence. This second program – called the Housing Assistance Program (HAP) – will serve a minimum of 14 clients for a period of 3 years and strives to achieve three main goals and objectives.
The first and main goal is to provide secure, stable and safe housing for victims of domestic violence. HAP provides transitional rental and utility assistance for its clients for an average period of 18 months. During such period, HAP pays 40% of participants’ rent and utilities. Participants are able to select an apartment or home of their choice in any of the four counties that Safe Harbor serves (Greenville, Oconee, Pickens, and Anderson). Securing safe and affordable housing is one of the greatest obstacles that survivors of domestic violence face. Therefore, the HAP program also includes a more long-term solution approach to housing. Participants are encouraged to begin thinking about other long-term solutions and are guided through the process of familiarizing themselves with more permanent low-income based housing and home ownership programs.
The second goal of the program is to increase the ability of domestic violence victims to obtain jobs. Victims of domestic violence are particularly vulnerable to the economic and personal challenges of sparse employment opportunities. For this reason, all HAP clients are offered placement into the Greenville Technical College Quick Jobs with a Future program, which allows clients to quickly obtain skills matching the needs of local business and industry.
This article was reposted with permission from The Journal – written by LaDonna Beeker, 02/21/2012. To contact your local state legislators to voice support for this needed funding, visit http://www.scstatehouse.gov/ .
WALHALLA – With South Carolina’s criminal domestic violence numbers staggeringly high in the nation, 10th Circuit Solicitor Chrissy Adams is hopeful that state legislators remember to adequately fund prosecutors who fight for domestic violence victims in the upcoming budget.
In the 2009-10 fiscal year, South Carolina’s budget did not include funds for criminal domestic violence prosecutors in the state because of a three-year $500,000 federal grant and $1 million received in one-time money from the federal government.
With the grant expiring in June, Adams, along with 15 other state solicitors, is reminding lawmakers that $1.6 million is needed to continue to fight CDV cases in the state. If the $1.6 million is allocated, Adams said it would give $100,000 to each circuit.
Fashion with a Passion on WSPA's Your Carolina Show Enjoy watching Safe Harbor's Executive Director, Becky Callaham, and Safe Harbor board member and Fashion with a Passion chair, Renee Dunlap, on WSPA's Your Carolina show (see link above). Safe Harbor's…
Safe Harbor wants to thank The Journal of Seneca, SC for highlighting the issue of domestic violence in the Upstate. Below is an editorial written by Editor, Brett McLaughlin, on 12/17/2011. Periodically, we receive letters and calls from readers who…
“There is always something to be grateful for.” ~ Charles Dickens
The holidays truly are a special time. True, the hustle of it makes the month of December scoot by so quickly…but this time of year brings with it a heightened level of appreciating and understanding one another. For me, I look forward to quiet times shared with loved ones. I feel peaceful when I see my family’s decorated tree and the sweet stockings that represent the members of my family. I smile at the obvious joy and innocence I see in my children, and I enjoy the effort people put into being festive and cheerful. For all of this…and for so much more…I am grateful. What are you grateful for this time of year?
For our residents at Safe Harbor, this time of year can be difficult. The season prompts missing home and missing personal traditions. Yes, our residents are grateful to spend the holidays in an environment of peace. At the shelter we have a decorated tree, and we have kind people from our community who make sure our clients each have a gift or two beneath it. Still, though, the holidays reinforce that life is different now and that change can be a difficult process.
Safe Harbor’s “Links of Hope” Golf Tournament took place on October 29, 2011 at The Trails at Chickasaw Point in Westminster, SC. The event raised over $14,000 with the support of 25 teams participating in the event and business sponsors and personal donations from across the Upstate. Our volunteers, sponsors, and the team at The Trails Golf Course & Grill worked together to make this event a success.
Our first place team of David Odom, Gary Odom, Kyle Lankford, & David Lankford scored 57. Jim LaRue, Eddie Brown, Bob Kurek, and Jim Graham came in second with 58. Third place went to Todd Hardaway, Eric Hardaway, Weston Blackwood, and Will Thomason with a score of 60. And rounding out the top 4 places with a score of 61 were Charley Thompson, Rex Gibbs, Ed Hicks, and Steve Hicks. Robert French won closest to the pin on #4, Bob Kurek on #8, Gary Odom on #13, and Ed Hicks on #17. They each won a 7 night 5 Star Resort Vacation Package compliments of SEU Promotions out of Charlotte. Robert French was the finalist in the $10,000 putting contest sponsored by Paesano’s, earning a second vacation package. Earle Wright was the finalist in the chipping contest, walking away with a vacation package as well.
A special thanks goes to our event sponsors – Leader Ford for their hole-in-one 2011 Ford Mustang package and Oconee Medical Center for providing lunch and marketing costs. Roy Metal Finishing was the Cart Sponsor, and Clemson at the Falls was the pin flags sponsor. 26 Golf Course Partners across the Upstate donated rounds of golf, allowing each tournament team to enjoy 4 rounds of golf at one of the top golf courses in the Upstate. Most of all, we want to thank Safe Harbor board member and tournament coordinator, Darragh Geist, and all other volunteers who coordinated this event.
Many thanks to all for supporting Safe Harbor through the 2nd Annual Links of Hope Golf Tournament! Please read below to see event photos and a full list of sponsors.