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Breaking the Cycle

On June 14, 2011, Safe Harbor will host a one-day training entitled “Breaking the Cycle: Recognizing and Responding to the Signs of Teen Dating Violence.”  This training is geared for middle school and high school teachers, guidance counselors, school administrators, youth pastors/leaders, coaches, and other adults who work with teens.  Participants will learn about the dynamics and warning signs of teen dating abuse and how to effectively assist students who are dealing with violence in their relationships (safety planning, cultural competency, etc).

Professional trainers from BreakTheCycle.Org, a national nonprofit organization addressing the issue of teen dating violence, will lead this training. 

Studies show that 1 in 3 teens will experience violence in a relationship, yet two-thirds of them will never report it to anyone. (  Females between the ages of 16-24 are more vulnerable to intimate partner violence than any other age group (US Dept. of Justice), and teen dating violence runs across race, gender, and socio-economic lines (National Center for Victims of Crime). 

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The Glamorization of Violence

by Julie Meredith, Safe Harbor Volunteer & Communications Director

This morning, I was flipping through radio stations in the car on my way to Safe Harbor.  During my short drive to work, I heard the lyrics of the Eminem/Rhianna hit single “Love the Way you Lie”:

“I’m tired of the games, I just want her back, I know I’m a liar
If she ever tries to leave again,
I’m gonna tie her to the bed and set the house on fire…”

I listened to the lyrics of Bruno Mars’ “Grenade”:

“Black, black, black & blue – beat me ‘til I’m numb
Tell the devil I said ‘hey’ when you get back to where you’re from
Mad Women, bad women, that’s just what you are,
You smile in my face then rip the brakes out of my car…
But, I’d catch a grenade for you,
Throw my hand on a blade for you
Jump in front of a train for you
You know I’d do anything for you.
I’ll go through all this pain
Take a bullet straight through my brain
Oh yes, I would die for you, baby
But, you won’t do the same…”

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Safe Harbor Raises Awareness on Abuse


SENECA – The Upstate’s most active organization devoted to assist victims of domestic violence is reaching out to the area’s high-schoolers to teach them about the warning signs of abusive relationships.

Julie Meredith, communications director at Safe Harbor in Greenville, said Safe Harbor is offering a new program at three Upstate schools. Seneca High School, Wade Hampton High School and J.L. Mann High School are all participating in the “Relationship Awareness Project,” or RAP program.

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Providing Care for a Victim

by Carrie Pettit, Community Counselor Supervisor, Safe Harbor

Whenever I’m introduced to new people in my personal life I am inevitably asked what I do for a living.  When I tell them that I am a counselor at Safe Harbor and explain that Safe Harbor is an agency that assists victims of Domestic Violence, I get a few reactions.  The most popular is what I call the “good for you” response, and then I get the “I could never do that” response.  But what I’m struck with the most is that almost without fail I am told by this stranger that I’ve just met that their sister, neighbor, best friend, aunt, mom, cousin, classmate, workmate, etc. is a victim of Domestic Violence.  I know that, as a professional in the field who is aware of the staggering statistics that DV is the leading cause of injury to women and that at least 1 in 4 women are or have been victims of DV, I shouldn’t be surprised.  Yet every time I am, just a little. 

What comes next in my conversation with this person I’ve just met is typically about how frustrated, scared, and at a loss they are in how to help the victim of Domestic Violence that they care about.  I listen and nod my head and try to help as much as I can, but to be honest I am often at a loss as to what advice I should give to these people to help.  Because, the truth is that caring about someone who is experiencing Domestic Violence is incredibly difficult and scary and oftentimes so very sad and there is no easy or quick fix available.  Yet, I realized very quickly that this question was not going to go away.  So, in order to find an answer that could actually help people who have a loved one experiencing Domestic Violence, I started asking myself, what would my clients say to their loved ones if they could verbalize what they need?  In asking myself that question, I came up with a list of Do’s and Don’ts that will hopefully be a guide for people who have someone in their life experiencing Domestic Violence.

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Fashion with a Passion

Fashion runways aren’t just found in the Big Apple anymore.  On Thursday, February 10, the glitterati of Greenville will gather at the Commerce Club in downtown Greenville for an evening of unforgettable fashion, food, and fun at “Fashion with a…

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