Defy the Lie

Rational Lies

Domestic abuse isn’t just about physical violence; it is about power and control and can be very complex and confusing for those living within its walls. When you are walking on eggshells in an abusive relationship, you naturally find ways to cope and survive. Maybe you’ve found yourself rationalizing your partner’s behavior to yourself or to others, saying or thinking things like:

  • Yeah, he has a temper, but he would never hit me.
  • It’s not that he doesn’t want me to have friends. He’s just protecting me.
  • He says things that scare me, but I know I am hard to love at times.

In this blog series, you’ll hear from survivors of domestic abuse as they share the “rational lies” they used to survive within their abusive relationships. You’ll also hear stories of how these survivors ultimately gained the courage to #DefyTheLie, breaking the cycle of abuse in their relationships and building new lives filled with safety and hope. If you are living within the walls of domestic abuse, we hope these stories will help you to understand that you are not alone. There is hope and help. Our services are confidential and completely free of charge. Call us anytime at 1.800.291.2139.